How Facebook Ruins a Relationship

Okay fine. I'm guilty. These may be the reasons why I'm almost single now. Sigh.

1. Increases Jealousy: Facebook breeds

jealousy in more ways than one. From

old flames writing on your bf or gf's

wall, accepting friends of the opposite

sex that you don't know or "liking"

someone's status one too many times

is enough to drive some partners

crazy. Jealousy stems from your own

insecurities about your relationship,

but turning to Facebook is only going

to make it worse when you see

something you don't approve of.

2. Your Relationship Status: From

"single," "in a relationship," to "it's

complicated," Facebook is all about

people's statuses. Some couples argue

over the relationship status, or lack

thereof, because it is a stepping stone

in the relationship and it shows you're

cool with publically announcing your

love. If one person is hesitant to be

Facebook official and the other isn't, it

may be enough to make or break the

relationship.

3. Photos from the Past (or Present):

Photos are definitely the most popular

feature of Facebook. If you're a

habitual detagger or never post

pictures, you may not have to worry

about photos with exes. However, for

the other millions of people who have

no shame in their past may keep their

photos up. Seeing a current bf or gf

with their old love may not bother

some and drive others up the wall. If

you're a guy with lots of lady friends or

vice versa and you like to take pictures

with them, it may spark unnecessary

jealousy from your partner.

4. It's Addictive: You probably already

know this, but Facebook is highly

addictive. If you're a daily Facebooker

who's also in a relationship, you may

run into some problems every time

you sign on. Couples can become

addicted to spying on their partner's

Facebook profile, especially when they

spot something they don't like on

there. This kind of addiction feeds petty

jealousy that is not particularly healthy

for a relationship.

5. Friends with Exes: Without fail, exes

manage to become an issue on

Facebook. Whether you are Facebook

friends with your exes, communicate

via wall post or message one another,

jealousy and fights are sure to follow. It

may be completely innocent and not

hidden from your boyfriend or

girlfriend, but that doesn't mean your

significant other isn't going to have

something to say about it.

6. It's Too Easy to Snoop: It's not

impossible to crack into your significant

other's Facebook, or sneak a peek at

their messages when they leave the

room. Of course, if you're doing this

with or without permission, you may

have a bigger concern than just being

nosy. Snooping on your significant

other's Facebook to find dirt is a red

flag in a relationship.

7. Showing No Online Love: PDA is no

longer reserved for in person only.

More than ever, Facebook has become

the place to sweet talk your sweetheart

for the whole world to see. Showing

online affection is a big deal to some

couples, but not everyone is a fan of

the gushy love notes. This public

display of affection is done for many

reasons- for public attention, to

appease your significant other or you

just can't help but shout it from your

computer chair. Showing online

affection is usually never a problem

until one of the partners doesn't

respond, hides or deletes the

comment or doesn't say "I love you"

enough on Facebook.

Prayer To Help Me Forgive

My Lord, help me forgive when everything inside me tells me not to. Help me let go when my heart is so wounded that I feel it’s breaking. Open my eyes to things that can heal me, things that can comfort me and make me stronger. Hold my hand and let me cry on Your shoulder. Take me to places I’ve never been, let me stand on the highest mountain, so I can see how foolish I am for clinging to my anger. Show me a glimpse of Your greatness, so that I can make it my treasure when everything else seems to crumble around me.

Teach me to make the best of all the painful circumstances in my life and help me love the people who hurt me as You love us all, although we hurt You every day by our words, thoughts and actions. Give me the wisdom to see beyond this moment, to understand and accept the deepest motivations that make people hurt other people. Give me the inner strength to heal and not to break, to comfort and not to destroy, to repay good for evil and love for hatred.

And last, but not least, make my faith stronger, so that I can cope with moments like this in the future. Turn every experience into a magic well, from which I can always draw drops of strength and wisdom. Teach me the alchemy of love, which changes dust and mud into gold and makes everything worthwhile. For You are the only help I’ve got and in You I put all my trust now and forever.

AMEN

I Am

I'm an angel, I'm a devil

I am sometimes in between

I'm as bad it can get

And good as it can be

Sometimes I'm a million colors

Sometimes I'm black and white

I am all extremes

Try figure me out you never can

There's so many things I am

I am special

I am beautiful

I am wonderful

And powerful

Unstoppable

Sometimes I'm miserable

Sometimes I'm pitiful

But that's so typical of all the things I am

I'm someone filled with self-belief

And haunted by self-doubt

I've got all the answers

I've got nothing figured out

I like to be by myself

I hate to be alone

I'm up and I am down

But that's part of the thrill

Part of the plan

Part of all of the things I am

I am special

I am beautiful

I am wonderful

And powerful

Unstoppable

Sometimes I'm miserable

Sometimes I'm pitiful

But that's so typical of all the things I am

I'm a million contradictions

Sometimes I make no sense

Sometimes I'm perfect

Sometimes I'm a mess

Sometimes I'm not sure who I am

I am special

I am beautiful

I am wonderful

And powerful

Unstoppable

Sometimes I'm miserable

Sometimes I'm pitiful

But that's so typical of all the things I am

- hilary duff

Closing Cycles

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One always has to know when a stage comes to an end. If we insist on staying longer than the necessary time, we lose the happiness and the meaning of the other stages we have to go through.Closing cycles, shutting doors, ending chapters – whatever name we give it, what matters is to leave in the past the moments of life that have finished.

Did you lose your job? Has a loving relationship come to an end? Did you leave your parents’ house? Gone to live abroad? Has a long-lasting friendship ended all of a sudden? You can spend a long time wondering why this has happened.

You can tell yourself you won’t take another step until you find out why certain things that were so important and so solid in your life have turned into dust, just like that. But such an attitude will be awfully stressing for everyone involved: your parents, your husband or wife, your friends, your children, your sister. Everyone is finishing chapters, turning over new leaves, getting on with life, and they will all feel bad seeing you at a standstill.

Things pass, and the best we can do is to let them really go away.

That is why it is so important (however painful it may be!) to destroy souvenirs, move, give lots of things away to orphanages, sell or donate the books you have at home.Everything in this visible world is a manifestation of the invisible world, of what is going on in our hearts – and getting rid of certain memories also means making some room for other memories to take their place.Let things go. Release them. Detach yourself from them.

Nobody plays this life with marked cards, so sometimes we win and sometimes we lose. Do not expect anything in return, do not expect your efforts to be appreciated, your genius to be discovered, your love to be understood.Stop turning on your emotional television to watch the same program over and over again, the one that shows how much you suffered from a certain loss: that is only poisoning you, nothing else.

Nothing is more dangerous than not accepting love relationships that are broken off, work that is promised but there is no starting date, decisions that are always put off waiting for the “ideal moment.”

Before a new chapter is begun, the old one has to be finished: tell yourself that what has passed will never come back. Remember that there was a time when you could live without that thing or that person – nothing is irreplaceable, a habit is not a need. This may sound so obvious, it may even be difficult, but it is very important.

Closing cycles. Not because of pride, incapacity or arrogance, but simply because that no longer fits your life.

Shut the door, change the record, clean the house, shake off the dust.

Stop being who you were, and change into who you are.

by Paulo Coelho